Resentment is like a highly infectious virus.
When we see it take over people, we shudder at its darkness. It's like kryptonite for the soul, reminding us that all is not well in this place. That we're not entirely safe. That injustice can thrive. And that something is terribly wrong within our species.
The injustice seduces us, infects us, and without realising we become part of the problem. Suddenly, the very thing we're disgusted by is pouring out of us. Blinded by superiority and emboldened with self-righteousness we turn on each other. And as blame and condemnation fire back and forth like arrows, the vicious cycle of resentment becomes entrenched, slowly solidifying into a tar-like hatred.
This tit-for-tat mechanism is basic and fundamental within nature. Animals, and even plants, do it. But, as with so many natural phenomena, as humans we must take special responsibility because of our immense power. Just as we become sick if we fail to take responsibility for the sugar we consume, we also become sick if we fail to take responsibility for the resentment we brood. And as that sickness corrupts our behaviour, we become complicit in the destruction of the human fabric.
If we are to arrest the inner volcanos of ill-will before they erupt, we must become the adult within. For it is the child part of us who is so hurt and confounded by the injustice. And if we fail to parent our inner child when they're hurt and afraid, then of course they will be compromised. Just like any neglected child, they'll react in a myriad of dysfunctional ways. But if we're present and nurturing with our inner child, we can help them process and slowly let go of the hurt. And from this more integrated place, form a conscious and rational response. That response may still involve taking corrective action, but the intention will be different. And it's this change of intention that not only stops the resentment spreading, but offers the best chance of transforming the situation.
The world is full of hurt children, who feel afraid and alone. We must come through for ourselves. And then each other.